Book Review: Scary Close

Donald Miller’s newest memoir, Scary Close: Dropping the Act and Finding True Intimacy, shares his journey toward becoming more genuine, honest, and invested in his relationships. Using the story of his courtship with his wife, Don shares his journey of growth from emotional dysfunction to health.


When I first read a description of Scary Close, my first thought was, “This won’t apply to me.”  I don’t consider myself a person who struggles with relationships. I have deep friendships, I’m grateful for my marriage, and I’m close with my family.  I’ve read Boundaries, and spent some hard, challenging years putting on my big-girl-pants and fighting for healthy relationships. I was pretty sure I had emotional intimacy all wrapped up and tied with a pretty bow. Done and done. Good job, me!

Reading Scary Close showed me I’m not quite there yet. And that’s OK. Don says, “I suppose that’s the point of this book. There’s truth in the idea we’re never going to be perfect in love, but we can get close. And the closer we get, the healthier we will be.” I don’t want to waste my life impressing a bunch of people, at the expense of sacrificing connection with the ones that matter. When it’s all said and done, I want to live a grateful life, be genuine, and love my people well.

Whether or not you struggle with relationships, I recommend this book wholeheartedly. Don’s writing style is easy to read and his stories are engaging. You’ll walk away from this book with a new-found appreciation for the healthy relationships in your life, and a challenge to show up and do the hard work of becoming a mature, emotionally whole person–not just for you, but for your family, your spouse, your friends, and your children. Everyone benefits from being surrounded by healthy relationships.

Disclosure statement: I received this free copy of this book in exchange for my honest review.

Saturday Small Talk–Book Review

If we were sitting down, enjoying a cup of coffee this morning, I would tell you about a book I read recently. A book I loved. A book I’d recommend in a heartbeat to anyone who loves food and people, and who loves to feed the people they love.

In her third memoir, Bread and Wine, Shauna Niequist combines her favorite recipes with stories about life and faith and family. Shauna writes about food and community, how time around the table brings people together.

While the premise of this book will ask most to open our homes more often, to share meals more often, Shauna writes of her journey toward a life of balance. As a person who doesn’t have a problem filling my days to the brim, it was refreshing to be reminded about right priorities. To be reminded community matters more than another thing on the calendar and another feather in my cap.

My life is full of work I enjoy, but when I’m too tired at the end of the day to invest in family and community, then my day is too full.

This book was the inspiration I need to begin creating space. Space in my calendar for spontaneity, space for a good meal, space for family and friends. Space in my home for people to come, to feel welcome, to find comfort.

And it starts today. Creating space. Emotional, physical, spiritual space.

Disclaimer: This book was given to me through Zondervan’s Booksneeze book reviewing program. All thoughts in this review are my own.